When we look honestly at our actions, we may see other beliefs that we are acting on. We may have multiple, conflicting beliefs acting in our lives. Any number of other beliefs may conflict with the "coming to believe" in this step and prevent us from taking the actions of hope. Here are some common beliefs
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My most important need is s ex
Even though I want love and compassion, the only way to meet those needs is through se x
People who ask for help are weak
Nobody is going to listen to me
If I call someone in the program, they will be too busy to talk to me. I will be an unwanted interruption
I can't count on anyone else. Nobody cares about me or my pain
If I express a need, you will get angry at me
I'm afraid of what would happen to me if I am vulnerable
I'm not worthy of anybody's consideration
Even though I need you, you are going to leave me
If you knew who I really was, you wouldn't love me
Inherently, I'm a "bad" person and I have to have a mask so that people will like me
If I act real religious, people won't see how little I trust God to take care of me
God is too busy to listen to me or care for me
If God exists, God is cruel and will punish me harshly
The majority around me has a religious belief that I can not conform to